Sometimes wonder if i had been a good mummy, if i had taken care well enough or not, if i could have done better, alot of 'ifs'. Till I came across this article which i find it very meaningful and it really served like a checklist that Yes! i have been unconsiously doing all that (most of the time, in most areas) already, at the same time, it helps me put to perspective that i could continue and do more for my children.
(1) Bonding - a healthy stable and attached relationship with an adult.
(2) Time together - Filling up their love tank daily.
(3) Physical touch - child need physical touch the most when they are least lovable. (i guess i am kind of guilty in this area especially when Tiffy display undesirable actions and behaviour)
(4) Encouragement - child who grow up in an environment of encouragement develops confidence and courage to face difficulties
(5) Boundaries - clear & consistent boundaries to develop feelings of protection and security (i need to firm up on this area as well)
(6) Emotional Availability - connect with them and sharing their emotions.